Stuff Cis People Say to Trans People

This amusing video has been making the rounds on Facebook and YouTube and I thought I’d pass it along. For all of the non-trans folks who watch this, these are the things not to say :-).

In-Depth Update

I’ve been one month post-op, and things have finally settled down enough (between my chest and my legs) that I can give a true update and explain a bit about what happened.  You’ll remember from my last post that I had some major complications from my top surgery, but with my legs, not my chest.  Here’s how it went down:

I went in for top surgery on November 21st, and honestly, I was scared.  Irrationally so (what if I didn’t wake up from the anesthesia?), but scared nonetheless.  I was also super excited, like how could this be happening to me?  Usually I wax and wane over decisions for months–and that’s only over buying a new TV or expensive pair of shoes, not top surgery!  But I digress… The day of the surgery, everything went as planned.  I had my pre-op appointment at the surgeon’s office early in the morning, and then drove down the road to the surgery center.  My last picture of me ever with boobs:

Brief Update (Post-Op)

I know it’s been quite awhile since I last posted (before surgery, actually), and I’ve been pretty busy since.  I unfortunately developed some complications in my legs after the top surgery and was in the hospital for much longer than previously anticipated, but I’m finally starting to get back on track.  Check out the below video for a brief update! (Also, I’ll be posting pictures soon!)

Tomorrow

I have no idea where the time has gone.  Top surgery is literally tomorrow.  The past few weeks have been so busy, I completely neglected posting anything.   On top of being busy, I realized yesterday that I was avoided posting for a reason, too.  Not only haven’t I posted, but I haven’t really been reading any blogs or looking at anything trans-related.  I ended up completely avoiding anything trans-related because it just hit too close to home.  Once the top surgery countdown was under one month, I got progressively nervous.  All I wanted to do was to avoid thoughts around being trans, the surgery, the reports of violence against those in the trans community, etc.  I also knew that nothing would take away this nervousness except for being post-op, so I did the best I could to avoid it.  Which, unfortunately, meant passively avoiding anything trans-related.  However, now that the surgery is literally less than 12 hours away, I’m okay with confronting my anxiety because in less than a day it will be all over.

2 Months on T and Endo Update

Yesterday marked my second (month) anniversary with T.  It’s been exciting so far, especially as I’ve seen the most changes in the past two weeks.  Check out the below video to hear about some of those (and hear how my voice has definitely, albeit barely, dropped) and see how my endocrinologist appointment went.  (Cliff notes version: it wasn’t the greatest, but I got clearance for surgery.)

 

(Again, the first ten seconds or so are odd but I still don’t know how to fix that.  If anybody does, email me, please!)